Working for Lifestyle/Extras

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:17pm

In your honor, I'm trying to find out something about gifted.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:19pm
What I did was to move to one of the highest performing school districts in my state.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:21pm

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Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:25pm

Well actually it wasn't an assumption, I asked a question but I asked because.....


Because of the trust issues that have been mentioned.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:32pm

things along that line. . . can you clarify what you would place in this category?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2003
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:35pm

How would your children have to sacrifice for your choices if you did decide to WOH?

When I was growing up, my grandmother, who lived with us, cared for me, as well as my WOH mom and dad, who were both home before 5pm every weekday, and home every weekend. I was lucky enough to have not one, not two, but three involved parents. Therefore, if my mom had chosen to SAH, she would have sacrificed not only my ability to go to college and graduate without any student loans, but more importantly, my close relationships with three parents.

I think my mother chose the most unselfish route to put my best interests first.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:40pm

i sah to raise my child. i don't add school into that mix,one bit. will my child grow up to realize school's influences and benefits? sure she will but helping raise,they do not..........i wouldn't sah unless i had a child to sah for nor would i sah if i felt i could woh and do the same thing.

to each,definately their own.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:47pm
"... and asians are always going to soar because of their culture" That is in itself a fascinating statement.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-31-2005
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:47pm

I think replacing "screen time" with "reading time" at home would probably go a long way to make up for a school system's ills, at least on an individual level. Of course, if you had a reluctant reader you'd have to be prepared to visit the library and try out a large variety of authors, genres, styles, etc.

I'd say most of the problems in U.S. education could be traced back to poor reading skills, and imo reading is the main way to improve those skills.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:56pm
ITA, it's reading and it's switching off the TV and monitors and gaming devices.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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