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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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They do in my child's school, but they aren't always based on ability or ability alone.
PumpkinAngel
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It seems to me that if we're going to call a group of kids gifted, that group should be fairly small.
Sabina
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
Jennie
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We really haven't begun to address the connection between a love of books and a love of writing, but I'm sure that when a poster posts "along those lines", they're not intending to leave out writing activities such as journaling.
Sabina
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
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Depends on the flahscard. A while back I did post a link to a set of flashcards that had textured pictures on one side and the corresponding nursey rhyme on the other.
I find that set to be pretty developmentally benefical to the toddler set (12 months - 3 years) because from what I have read the child that enters preschool knowing at least 4 full nursey rhymes has a good start on the "learning to read" track.
Could this be read in a book? Of course. But I believe at least this particular set of flashcards could have possible benefits as well.
I just don't see the point of disregarding flashcards in general.
Sounds like a cute set of cards, but when I think of flash cards, I'm thinking of something that drills kids on some set of facts, like math facts or "what letter does this word begin with", things like that.
Sabina
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
Which has been the debate throughout this thread about the stimga that flashcards can *only* be considered a drilling tool and "the parent from the movie Parenthood" stereotype. I believe the original thought on flashcards started with a poster that personally created flahscards for her toddler that was texturized and what not.
Actually, thank you - I'm very proud of the fact that my 2 1/2 yo loves to sing Itsy Bitsy Spider and Twinkle Twinkle, little star and Baa Baa black sheep. I have to give credit to her DC because I've been pleasantly surprised when I've thought I'm introducing a rhyme to her to find out that she can follow along with me. Tonight she was catching on to the christmas song Up on the Housetop.
Admittedly it's not perfection and she needs someone to "follow" but I see no reason she won't have it in about a year when her verbal skills get better.
Of course this is one child and one experience - I don't expect it to be the norm.
On the issue of trust, I have specific, real life issues as to why I don't trust what goes on in any given household.
I know of two homes, personally, in which the father killed the mother. In one home the father also killed the children AND the spend the night guests. That was years ago. In the other home, more recently, the father apparently (hasn't been proven but is on the affidavit) raped one of the subjects in the home and killed the mother all before 7 am in the morning and after the two oldest went to school leaving 5 children as complete orphans and one fatherless.
Why do I bring this up? Both of these families were for all appearances, the "all american" family. Both appeared to be devout in their chosen faiths. Both fathers were upstanding citizens in their communities. Both mothers were sahm's. Both fathers had good, white collar careers.
You can't trust anyone with your children. But we do because we can't also keep them in a box. It's the extent of how much one trusts that matters, imo. I would never leave my child in a center or home which didn't have access to a camera system with audio from my computer regardless of where I was. In today's day and age, it is not only plausible, it is completely possible and is being done.
Neither of these homes were dc providers. However, they were the homes where many children found fun times. Our children were never allowed to these homes because in my mind, there was something amiss.
And for the record, these murders did not occur in my community....for those with inquiring minds about my community.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
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