Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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Nope I don't. I had my kids to raise them myself.
**Ah, you decided to do it the natural way as well! Very good for you.....
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
Yanno, my question throughout this thread has been "why don't the people working for extras and luxuries just come out and say what they think are extras and luxuries?"
That would have been a better approach, imo.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
Are you aware of the title of the thread? For some reason, it has been turned into a multithread thread, which is fine, but the original post's meaning has been turned inside out even by the person who originated it.
I'd like to hear some answers on the OP from those who actually do work for extras and lifestyle.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
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Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme...
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?>>
This is the original post (trimmed down). The original question is, as I comprehend it, why a nice car, house, good neighborhood is considered extras/lifestyle. What is considered an "extra" and what is considered a neccessity in order to support the notion of a dual-income family.
So really this question is not really directed at a WOHMM mom but to the person that believes these things are luxurious.
But to answer your question I work for neccessities and extras. My income is needed for the neccessities and the extras are the side benefit.
Neccessitites:
Owning my own dwelling (working towards a single family home - now live in a townhome)
A good neighborhood
Food
clothes
2 cars - hubby and I work in opposite directions 45 minutes each way. Even if I was SAH I wouldn't live with one car
Extras:
2 computers - both hubby and I are computer geeks 2 computers saves our marriage on a daily basis.(besides He's a PC and I'm a Mac
new cars versus used - almost of a necc. due to long commutes
the ability to visit my parents and sister (in another state) one or two times a year
My hubby to play on a novice hockey league
the future chance for my child to particpate in after school activities like dance classes or what not.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
Nothing is failing me but you can use that strawman approach all you like.
If a toy teaches anything to anyone, it can be used as an educational tool. Depth perception and fine/gross motor skills are so important to a young child. I am wondering why you are having such a difficult time accepting that.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
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