Working for Lifestyle/Extras

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 2:44am

You trust yourself and you hired child care giver? one or the other or both?

I would think it is common knowledge, we all get mind numbed.

We as mothers all sacrafice, the bottom line is, in this debate, how much we sacrafice for our children.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 2:46am

"Neither of these homes were dc providers. However, they were the homes where many children found fun times. Our children were never allowed to these homes because in my mind, there was something amiss.

And for the record, these murders did not occur in my community....for those with inquiring minds about my community."

I am confused. If these homes were not in your community, why was it even an issue whether or not to let your kids go there?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 2:55am

"Try the third grade for what? " you make virtually no sense imo, Im listening, care to expound?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:03am

What if you could not feed your children if mom did not work out of the home? ?

What if mom was the only human working?

Would you see it different then?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:12am
I'm in that awkward in-between times when Cheez-Its won't solve all our problems, but a fistful of martinis still do ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:32am
I'm not having trouble with anything, thank you. The very idea that a young child "requires flash cards" to learn fine motor skills, however, is about the biggest joke I've heard this week, other than the one about the 3 wisemen at the nativity set wearing fireman hats.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:39am

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Heh. I think you may need to resort to visual aids for this one :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:50am

Who would NOT take the opportunity of living in Europe to explore as much of it as humanly possible??? My dh and I are currently living in the UK and while Am and Yellie are still quite small, we've traveled a good bit of England and Scotland already. We spent some time, recently, in Belgium and Luxembourg, too, as well as made a side trip to Legoland in the Saarland in Germany.

Maybe they'll remember bits and pieces, maybe not, but my goodness, we might NEVER have this opportunity again! I completely understand why your brother grabbed that chance with both hands! I'd sure rather spend our family resources exploring the places in the world we're fortunate enough to live in than fritter them away on frivolities and useless things like 4 wheelers and "gators" and flashcards.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:09am
ROFL!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:15am

Agree, as you might imagine. I was dragged to all the castles as a child. It was not terribly amusing, but some were very cool, and it came in right handy in college.

I had meant to ask earlier, what are "gators" anyway?

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