Working for Lifestyle/Extras

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:16am
and did you raise the other children in your care?
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:20am

ahhh, you homeschool. I didn't realize that (or must have missed it along the way). However, I would venture to say that, if you pulled out the hours for "schooling" (which I'm sure they do much of it on their own anyway) and focused on the before and after, your hours with your teenagers becomes much closer to the hours that I have with mine.

Carole

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:23am

what child spends the majority of their time at school or dc? even counting awake hours, they average about 20-25% of their time somewhere else. Heck, in any math class I ever took, 75-80% is more than 20-25%. And i only went to public school;)

Carole

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:28am

Ah, so you decided to do it the natural way -- like sippy cups, disposable diapers, etc??

Be that as it may....How in the world did I not know that for the past 15 YEARS I have been raising my kids UNNATURALLY?????? Why didn't anybody tell me this? And here I thought all along that I was doing it the RIGHT way for ME....great kids, well-behaved (mostly;), kind, considerate children.

Darn, do I need to turn them over to the sahm neighbor next door. Maybe she can do a better job since she sah....of course, they also have the inground pool, a mercedes and a lexus, a jet-ski, and rent a house at the shore for a month in the summer.

BTW -- that was sarcasm for the sarcasm-impaired....I think I'll keep my kids.

Carole

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 7:09am

SWAG says some kind of amphibious dirt-bikey thing, but truly, I have no idea.

SWAG=Silly Wild Guess.

ETA: This is a gator: http://www.classifiedads.com/motorcycles_and_4_wheelers-ad451104.htm




Edited 12/20/2006 7:11 am ET by cdmamnyell
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 7:11am
Phew!

 

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 7:21am
Apparently guns and ATV's are

 

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 7:25am
Even better, you can't spoil your kids with guns or ATVs, but you should seriously rethink providing an education.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 7:35am
Well, you wouldn't want to spoil the little buggers, would you?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 7:36am
Yee-haw! has room for the squirrels you shoot on the way too, cool!

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