Working for Lifestyle/Extras

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 8:28am
As we say back home in WV, "If you got a possum and a biscuit, you got yourself a meal."

 

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 8:58am

let's do this ONE MORE TIME....i don't work out of the home FOR these things. I can afford these things BECAUSE I woh.

personally, I really don't care what YOU think about what "I" deem that I want for MY children and our family life.

No reanalyzing needed here, thanks. ROFLOL!!!!

Carole

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:02am
Just a word of advice. Anytime you open an ikat post, just be sure you have no liquid in your mouth. Swallow first. ;)
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:02am
i can't speak for guns or atvs (unless you consider my favorite land rover one),but college is indeed an extra,here....dh and i are all in favor of the wealth of post secondary education,but that choice is theirs to own,not ours to owe - a friend of mine shared that with me the other day and it stuck. ;)

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:33am

Because not one single poster is working SOLELY for extras and luxuries.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:36am
Great!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:38am

Wow, that's great.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:40am
That sounds wonderful.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:42am

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I think flashcards that reinforce concepts that a child will already be introduced in other ways, like animal names or colors, are fine and can be fun. For me, the problem comes in when parents push flashcards on kids for the purpose of teaching them things they wouldn't ordinarily be working on, like the ones that show three apples on one side and the child is supposed to count them and say "3", then the parent shows the child another digit and the child is supposed to show the right number of fingers. I find this sort of thing inappropriate for toddlers unless they show an interest.

You do realize that if toddlers and preschoolers learn nursery rhymes, they're not likely to have picked it up from flashcards, since they can't read.

Sabina


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Sabina

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:43am

I don't want my children to work during the school year. By sophomore or junior year, my boys will have 4 hours of homework on top of a 6.5 hour school day.

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