Working for Lifestyle/Extras

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:20pm

Long before we could have read them on our own, my parents read my sister and me the House on the Prairie series, C.S. Lewis's Lion, Witch, and the Wardrobe series, Tolkien's LOTR, Ivanhoe, Cheaper by the Dozen, and too many others to list. A chapter a night, or until Dad and Mom got tired of us begging them to continue. . . At the point we caught up with the level of books they read to us, then we got to take turns reading. Kind of like a family that watches television together, except interactive. :)

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:21pm

Lots of kids manage to learn *despite* our efforts and not so much *because* of our efforts.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:22pm
i can say i dont know anyone who woh for extras and luxeries. they may have some because after paying what they are working for, the necessities there is money left over, but not just for luxeries. you know from your posts your kids have more extras and luxeries than my kids will every know - but thats okay, my kids dont want or need anymore than they have. extras and luxeries are in the eye of the beholder, no one else can determine what is an extra for someone else.
Jennie
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:24pm
Very nice indeed.

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:27pm

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Although I haven't stated anything about sticking to horizontal levels...I do tend to stay within their levels of ability.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:28pm
i think you have to let them read above age level to continue their progression - but i agree you have to watch the content. with my oldest that was the hardest thing, finding books that were challenging enough to keep her interest yet not to far out there. i spent alot of time explaining things much earlier than i had hoped to because of her reading books that were above her age group.
Jennie
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:29pm

My mother was the one who suggested I look into the college that is now my alma mater.

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:30pm

But my mom felt Stars Wars was inappropiate for me as you feel Stephen King is for your son So I don't see differnce between your stance and my mothers

When I spoke of age appropiate I mean ability level, while you approach it from a maturity level. When I said I read my daugher books that are higher than her level I mean reading ability not her maturity level.


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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:31pm

She must read and write very quickly--in my AP English class students read a book or play along with a 5-10 page analytical essay about every two weeks (along with miscellaneous other work). That was pretty standard work for an AP class in this area. When I was a senior, I would have loved to be able to wade through Hamlet and write a good paper in 5 hours or so. . .

AP classes are supposed to match the rigor of a freshman/sophomore course in a four year university.

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:35pm

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Yes, I don't see anything about flash cards being appropriate for a 12 month old child, any everyday ordinary 12 month old child....I just don't see a purpose.

PumpkinAngel

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