Working for Lifestyle/Extras

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 3:59pm
Your parent's approach was similar to mine. One chapter a night, things like LOTR (but boy was I happy when dd took over that one), and also alternating chapters. Since I was not really keen on having dd read aloud to me, I would read a chapter, then let her continue on her own, if she chose, and then she would tell me "what happened" the next night, before I read on. It worked very well, and also helped me gauge what she was grasping.
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:00pm

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Thank you! that has been my orginal point all along. At least someone is one my wavelength I was feeling lonely. LOL


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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:01pm
I agree; I don't get too involved with what my kids are reading, as long as it's nothing too sketchy.

Sabina

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:03pm
I've never really had the problem of not liking what my kids are reading; can you give an example of something your ds wanted to read but you didn't want them to?

Sabina


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Sabina

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:06pm
I have my limits, Dr. Seuss is one of those. I was never able to read Alice in Wonderland either, just couldn't. I am able to disengage from what I am reading and read it nicely anyway for lots of things, like LOTR. But other things are just too much.
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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:10pm
I'm finding these books we can't stand reading aloud are nothing compared to what teenagers want to put on the stereo system.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:12pm
Ditto, especially tough with the 6-7yo reading complicated stuff.
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:18pm

Actually we have been talking about both.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:24pm
Right.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:26pm
No abridged versions here, lol. If dd couldn't read it, I did, no problem, but abridged versions are sad.

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