Working for Lifestyle/Extras

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Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:45pm
So true. I've had people ask me how I "got" my kids to be such good readers and how it is that they watch so little tv, and I think this is a big part of it. When my kids go to visit their grandparents, they watch tv because it's on all the time. At our house, the tv is never on.
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:47pm

Perhaps then my kids were just not prepared.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:49pm
No stereo, no problem.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:57pm
I guess if the original is not great literature anyway, it matters less, but I avoid the things, on principle.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:58pm
Praise be! I thankfully have no idea what that even is, lol, but it sounds like a bad, cheap LOTR rip-off. I developed a sincere hatred for Mr Tolkien during dd's Hobbit phase.
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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:00pm
Wow, you're really serious about defending your turf - very admirable!

Sabina


Oh, lifeis a glorious cycle of song, a medley of extemporanea:


And love is a thing that can never go wrong; and I am Marie of Roumania.


Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:03pm
I for one would be concerned if my kids *didn't* read books with new words and with challenging ideas.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:04pm
Why don't you want him to read that?

Sabina


Oh, lifeis a glorious cycle of song, a medley of extemporanea:


And love is a thing that can never go wrong; and I am Marie of Roumania.


Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:05pm
No, not really. I never listen to music, so I did not realize that the thing had broken, apparently several years ago, according to dd.
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:10pm

What 128 hours? I'm sorry but I don't recall posting anything about 128 hours but there happens to be 128 hours a week after I work my 40. Actually, in my case, it would be 123 not 128 because I work more like 8.5 hours and have a 15 minute commute.

Wow, that means I have three times as much time off of work as I do on. So how come I can't keep my house spotless.

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