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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
I suppose you don't need to keep reminding me that women work for other things than the nice things in life because I stated that on the outset of my adventure here. However, it might be good to remind you that we are currently on a thread which is about working for lifestyle and extras...those aren't the necessities.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
Yes... but can't you see that when you say that SAH is the *best* place to be that you automatically put a judgment on WOH being inferior to the best.
There is a best situation for everything. They are called ideals. Surely, you aren't going to suggest that striving for the ideal is wrong, are you? Do you seriously think the ideal for any child is to be raised by someone other than their own parent--given we are speaking about a regular family who isn't harming a child. ( I am not getting into the worst case scenarios here)
As I stated to another poster: I'm not here to validate your feelings. If you feel that way it is because YOU feel that way not because of something I've said. Nothing I've read here has invalidated what I feel or do. There have been a few snide remarks but I figure that's just how you all welcome people around here. lol.
I said that what I was doing was best for me noting I had ideas about sahm vs. woh. Everyone on your side jumped on me advocating I had stated things I didn't and saying I was judging. Well, now you have me advocating what I feel about it more strongly and I'll stand by it. I'll stand by my moral issues and advocate them as being the ideal for all children as I said: given there is the good home environment. I think woh do the very best they can for their families. Also, I think if they stayed home they could find a higher best in themselves to give to their children and family.
It's what I think. I'm not asking you to do it.
Okay, I did say that woh is not the best. So, I give you a point. I did say it was something in particular. Not the best for the child in reference to woh/sahm.
ETS: I replaced "implicate" with "say". I'm not sure why I used implicate. Thanks!
Edited 12/1/2006 1:23 am ET by phoenixrising687
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
The 10-day forecast for weather in Stockholm is mid-40s--basically comparable to that forecast for DC for the same time period once that cold front comes through over the weekend. (Weather.com) And the lowest "low" I saw in that time period is 38.
Of course, it's supposed to rain the whole time, too.....
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