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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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I guess I missed where someone said you were trying to make your opinion ours/theirs.
The point is, you didn't say that you think your way is the best way for your family. You said that it is the right way, period. That is judgemental. I'm not negating your opinion, but if you think that you can have that opinion and ALSO have everyone agree that you are not being judgemental, you're sorely mistaken. You can't have your cake and eat it too. And people thinking that your opinion is a load of doody is not negating anything, it's called *disagreeing* with you.
Oh, such irony.. I can't take it! Overflowing with rhetoric, LOL! I'm still not understanding what you think should be happening here. I can think of some scenarios.... 1. You thought that you would post your opinion, and everyone would agree with you. 2. You thought you would post your opinion, and everyone who previously thought differently would fall over themselves, never before actually thinking about their situation. 3. You thought that you would post your opinion, and even though many disagree, you thought noone would respond in any way, because that's not what people do on debate boards... oh... wait.
None of those is realistic. So, what do you think the "proper" response to you would be, if none of what has been posted is ok IYO? If you didn't want any response at all beyond total agreement, why did you even bother coming to a debate board in the first place?
What about what is best for society and the world at large?
My ob/gyn is a woman.
I wonder if seeking othercare for children while doing things like getting a haircut or going to the doctor is also "abdicating responsibility."
I always felt that after raising twins, my parents were probably more capable than myself when it came to watching DS. And certainly the time he spent w/my parents was precious, more than ever
"sahms carry those fancy bags,save for junior's complete ride through college,too. share something a sahm does not know is all i'm challenging!!"
Nobody said that sahms don't buy fancy bags and save for college. But only the ones who are upper middle class or wealthy would have the money to buy expensive shoes and save for a full ride through college. You are in that position, and tinder is, but many sahms are not. And many wohms would not be if they quit their job to sah. I thought everyone here understood that. Are we all clear now? Anyone need to dispute that a family with only one income earner is not able to buy expensive things and save for full ride to college, if they do not have plenty of disposable income???????????????
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