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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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Perhaps as a whole women tend to be in more flexible jobs, yes. It was easier for me to take three months leave as a teacher than had I been a principal, a field still dominated by men at least in secondary education.
Hmm, well I'm afraid most of what I miss is unshippable (if that's a word). I miss any kind of decent Mexican food above all. After 11 years in Europe, I have not yet encountered a single Mexican restaurant that makes anything resembling Mexican food (let alone *good* Mexican food).
I also miss bagels horribly. I can get my hands on good cream cheese and the best lox in the world but I can't get a decent bagel to put them on.
The other one is peanut butter. I can get some sort of very strange tasting peanut butter but they do something weird with it in Europe. Skippy doesn't even taste like Skippy. I tend to indulge in a lot of peanut butter when I'm in the U.S.
"He goes to school 5 afternoons a week from 12:30-3:30, so if he has to be in the gym daycare from 8-11, I feel horrible for him. It just seems like so much time away from a parent."
So, what happens when a child HAS to be at school from 7:45 until 3? I truly hope you are not saying that children going to school is a bad thing because they are not with a parent.
JD
LOL, I completely agree about Mexican food and bagels. I can't follow you on the peanutbutter though, I am too much of a Euro at heart. Peanuts are for elephants.
Wanna start a Mexican food franchise in Europe? We actually had a bunch of guys from California here a few years ago, who were getting halfway serious about it.
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hmmm, I have been reading this thread and others and a lot of these SAHM that are bantering about how important it is to be home for their children are doing what? Sitting on the computer posting over 1000 times. Amazing, so I suppose sitting home and playing on the computer all day makes you a good mom just because you can say I stay at home...there is a difference than being at home than being a full time mom at home. I often wonder about this, in my personal experience with over 2000 divorces I have handled, a lot of SAHM seem to enjoy spending countless hours on the computer. So, I don't see a difference in my sitting at my desk, being in court or working in general any different than the ones that SAH and sit in front of this silly message board for 4-6 hours a day. I would say 40 percent of my divorces I have handled as a rep. for the men, ended because SAHM sat on the computer all day and temptation got the best of them. I am not saying ALL SAHM do this, but I personally have 3 family court files on my desk right now that are there as a result of A SAHM playing on the computer.
JD
That is seriously tempting! What gets me is that Taco Bell is closer to real Mexican food than what I've been served in supposedly Mexican restaurants.
I really want Norwegian or Swedish lox (lax) on bagels too. I'm completely spoiled now and can't get the really good stuff in the US.
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