Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"You just told me you and your money are more important than time with your children. There is more to mothering than errands, naps, feeding schedules, cleaning, cooking and diapering. So much more."
I can't mother them while they're in school or nap.
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You are talking to someone who fully believes women should be well prepared to take over if the need arises in their family. Education is something all women would do well to achieve and use to some extent while their children are young and growing, if not before. I could take over and make near what we are living on now and in a few years I could exceed what we earn.
I have no guilt whatsoever about not working. I wouldn't even if I didn't have an education or the know-how to run a successful business. I believe it is the man's position to provide first for his family. I'm a person of complete faith in God. So is my dh. We trust that when the Lord tells us that the man is to work to provide that He will provide us the tools whereby that can occur successfully.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
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Yup, and the idea that they *should* feel guilty is hysterical.
Sabina
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
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