Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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Really? Thats interesting. Because in the late 1950's the teen birth rate was 96 per 1,000 births and in 2000 it was 84 per 1,000 births.
Care to explain that one?
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Ragging on people's posting habits isn't really cool, whether they are SAHMs or WOHMs.
http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/tgr/05/1/gr050107.html
Not really. That plays a slight part, but overall contraceptive use is up as well as abstinence.
<(I assume you're at least 40 since you have 5 children).>
My neighbor across the street had her 5th 6 months ago and is 35--the oldest is around 10, I believe. The 6 month old is already trying to walk, probably self-defense. . . :) She SAH and homeschools the oldest three (age 10, 7 or 8, and 5), and the dad WAH 3 days a week.
Exactly. DH certainly wouldn't be in the financial shape he is in right now without me-- managing our books for starters. Mortgage is paid off, own one vehicle free and clear, no credit card debt, no school loans, a few thousand owed on the other vehicle. I WOHFT for 12 years and saved for what was important to me, and he feels like me SAH is contributing to our son's well-being and the family's happiness.
Not all contributions are measured in dollars.
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