Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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"5) if the kids go away to summer camp either day or overnight, who is raising them?"
""To some extent these are extensions of our raising them. This is why it's so important to know who we leave our children with.""
Wait a minute! Isn't that what several people have been arguing about othercare? That it is an extension of parental rearing of the kids and therefore it is important to pick a good DCP? Why is summercamp suddenly OK for you, but not DC?
IMO, if you feel guilt about something, you should rectify the situation, so as not to feel the guilt. I do not think that feeling guilt on an ongoing basis is healthy in any way, shape or form. If I felt guilty about leaving my child with a DCP, I would find a better person. Simple really.
Since I do not think it is ideal for dd to be home with me 24/7, I am not likely to feel guilt merely because I am leaving her with a DCP.
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