Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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Oh, bollocks. Are you seriously telling us that when someone calls a black person the n-word, the offense is because "there's a little truth to it"?? Or if a woman is called the c-word, she would only get offended if she actually were kind c-like? How about if someone called your teenaged daughter a slut or a whore? She would only be offended if it were kinda true?
So SAHMs should only be offended if they are called lazy parasites if they kind of are, right?
Seriously, your statement is about the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
Flexibility of scheduling is a great thing about being a sahm!!!
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
I didn't bring up the hours game, remember? I was just asking what you considered spending time consisted of.
I think it's great when my friends get themselves a part time job when their kids are in school. I also have a few friends who work and school at home. One is a business owner two times over and woh. She has 10 children all at home. She works from 2pm to 10pm with her husband outside the home. Their oldest child, when a freshman, scored missing one point from acing the ACT. His SAT's are outrageous! He has been courted by the Ivy League amongst others since and is a senior now. She has it going on! I know she works to be able to send her son and her other children to university, I don't know if I would do that, but it would have to be considered, but it's a luxury she is willing to sacrifice her time at home for. She is a great mom. I think all of us are great moms but what better moms could we be if we devoted all our time to the children we brought into this world? I think there is more to life than working for things which I don't think are necessary.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
"I think all of us are great moms but what better moms could we be if we devoted all our time to the children we brought into this world?"
That is the part you continually fail to explain. Why would it be better to devote ALL your time to your kids? What is this magical benefit they derive from having their mothers devoted to them and in their faces 24/7?
Time for one more.....
Why the huh? You place no value on your former career - you gave it up."
I gave it up because my family is more important and I am willing to do anything for them.
Not for my children, no that's not the "ideal." I wholeheartedly disagree.
Well, if I had the ideal that my needs to work outweighed the needs of my family my heart might find the same place yours has in disagreeing. I'd have to make a new ideal for my children other than their natural ideal because I'd be justifying my ideal.
ROFLMAO that's a silly opinion.
Whether you choose to believe it or not, it is not an opinion. It is a fact.
"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&
but see, THERE's your problem...you say that moms shouldn't work for "luxuries" or "extras" ,but then you don't detail what those are. What you seem to forget (although you "say" differently) is that all of us have different definitions of what those things are. What's a luxury to one might be a necessity to another. What you consider educational (supposedly allowable extra, LOL!) luxury might be someone's example of a necessity.
I'm glad that you're out of debt and have found a plan that works for you. Believe it or not others do it different ways and find a plan that works for them. I'm not sure why you insist that your standards are anyone else's standards -- why can't families decide to do it THEIR way (up to and including how they raise their children)?
Carole
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