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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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But do you really think its a good idea for a teenager to get married?
If I had a teenage daughter who got pregnant I would much prefer that she stay single and stay at home so her family could help her and she could still focus as much attention as possible on school and her future.
What purpose does it serve for a child to marry another child?
In fact its probably the opposite. Im sure many, many, many of the teenage mothers out there today are products of teenage mothers and grandmothers, all of whom are enslaved in the welfare cycle. Its amazing that we've got a whole subculture of people in this country (and this is not a racial comment at all...IMO it cuts across racial lines) who are so poor and uneducated they literally cannot afford to work. Its a better deal just to stay on welfare.
Sad. I'll agree that the 1950's was probably better in that respect.
Goody for you. You're entitled to your opinion about what works for your family, and we're entitled to DO what works best for ours.
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I agree.
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Within the next 2 houses we will own our home with no mortgage. We will both be in our early 40's and live in our dream home with no mortgage. I think we are doing very well.
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I am not really sure what mom does 24x7? Can you explain this one?
<< Personally, I find just the interaction with adults I get from working to be well worth working. It makes me a better person and, I'm sure, a better mom.>>
I am a WAHM. Although I am just caring for a friends child for the last year that I SAH. I get lots of interaction with other adults. I don't live in a cave with a moat and no other adult is allowed in.
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Yep...love those too. Every single SAHM that I know personally has their child in a preschool. My youngest has been in preschool when she was 2.5 and went 2 days a week for 4 hours each day. When she was 3 she went 3 days for 4 hours each day. Now that she is 4 almost 5 she goes 5 days 4 hours each day. She has loads of friends, not just in preschool but with lots of other children.
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Just like there are lots of reasons to SAH.
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I do a lot more than hang out with my children. My house isn't cleaner because I SAH. We are here a lot therefore it is more messy. When I go back to work my house will be cleaner because we won't be here and since I will be working full time I will have a maid in once a week. I spend many hours working on many things with my children. We read, we do projects, we go places that they enjoy, and I help out at their school. I also volunteer at school on a regular basis. My youngest has been able to go to gymnastics and dance during the day when the classes are less full. That has been great! Again I also manage the entire job of remodeling and designing our homes. That is really hard work. I am not sure how we are going to get through the next 2 houses because I am chosing to go back to work. I guess it will just take a little longer and more creative thought.
Edited 12/2/2006 8:37 pm ET by mbanc17
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