Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am |
Hi Ladies :)
This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.
Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.
Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.
I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?
Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?
So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?
Thanks all :)

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Sabina
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That is all I am saying. Phoenix is arguing that having a SAH is better for ALL kids, so is Tinder. That, to me anyway, is a very different argument from yours. I read yours as being basically one of finding your personal satisfaction in SAH and as you having a preference ot SAH with YOUR kid. That is perfectly understandable.
Saying that SAH is better for ALL strongly implies that to do right by their kids all parents should find a way to have a SAHP (or in phoenix's case, a SAHM).
Hmmm? What's more important? Cleaning my house or raising my child? Hmmmm? Which one would I alter my lifestyle for?
Raising my children is just a weeeee bit more important than cleaning my house. I had no idea I should consider the two equivalent. (I'd insert a rolling eye icon here if I had one)
I agree to a point. I do think people compromise their careers when they cut back but there are times when life demands that. You don't have to be going full till the entire 40 years you work at your career.
I'm sure my career is not where it would have been had I never had kids but, at this point in my life, I'm not willing to work like I did before having my children. That is reflected in my raises every year, which are not what they used to be but that's ok. It won't be long before I don't have family demands to balance with career. And even then, it doesn't matter if I do or I don't pick back up the pace of my career. It's my choice.
Most people are in position to turn down over time at least some of the time. Yes, there are emergencies but you handle those and then they're done. If a company can't handle day to day operations without working people 60+ hours a week, they need to hire more people. You can always unioinize and pressure the employer to do just that.
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