The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:33pm
Sounds like they have to work out a few bugs!
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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:34pm

Dd is in band too. So next year she'll be playing at all the games and won't be able to be sneaky and/or leave because she'll be in big trouble - bandwise - if she does.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:35pm

<<<And? Does that mean you think you know friends of friends? >>


And...I know their friends and the friends parents, I think that's important.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:36pm

Private schools are often smaller as well, so their non-security officer resources can be stretched a bit further.


We have SROs (school resource officers) at every site; elementaries, middle, jr high, hs and the alternative school. From what I observed at the middle school, the SRO is quite friendly and interactive with the kids.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:38pm

<<<I am very surprised that someone who won't let their teenage son stay home by themselves (for what a hour or two since her job is so flexible) would allow them to hang out at school with basically nothing to do after the clubs and activities are over. >>


Who is this?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:40pm

<<For example, if when your younger son reached the age/maturity your older son is now, but did not obtain the same privileges with no apparent reason. That would be unfair, and therefore a double standard. Fair application of principles that may differ based on a legitimate risk factors is fair, and if it does not actually infringe on a persons privileges or opportunities, then most definitely it's fair.>>


It's actually the flip, the younger son reached some privileges earlier because he was more mature....so yes, we have a double standard sometimes, I have no problem admitting it to them or you.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:44pm

In high school, we had some alternative scheduling, which meant a limited number of classes were available an hour earlier than the traditional start of school (7am instead of 8am). Which meant the school building and library were open an hour earlier.

Although I never took any of the early classes, I went to school at 6:45a every day to do all my homework--usually at the hall monitor's desk on the 3rd floor hallway--because I liked the quiet and I'm a morning person. The only class that didn't work for was Algebra, but I got before school tutoring from my Algebra teacher that year, so it amounted to the same thing. A couple teachers stopped by the first couple weeks of each year to see what I was doing, and one just didn't understand why I wasn't doing my homework the night before, but once they realized I just had a rhythm they left me alone.

I know there were a good number of students who did roughly the same thing after school, because they found it was their best time to study (after school while material was still fresh in their minds).

One of the things I love best about working night shift is that I get up around 5:25 (if I'm working out that day) or 6:25 (if not), shower, feed the critters, deal with the litterboxes, make my own dinner, watch some TV and chill before heading out the door at 9:15 (or 10:15 on Fridays because I drive). I like having that nice, leisurely lead-in to work. Let's me get settled into the day and I don't feel like I'm rushing around in a blind daze. I can see why school kids would want that same transition into their school day and I know, for me, that arriving an hour beforehand really did help me to focus for the rest of the day.

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Kitty

"Flying there, yes you need a passport.... taking a cruise there you'd just need her to have a BC. If you took a cruise out of Port Canaveral you could spend one or two days at Disney to satisfy that, then a three or four day cruise to Bahamas and maybe Key West." -- Jamie's excellent and accurate advice with regard to travel documents needed when traveling internationally

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"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:47pm

<<These kids don't live very far from school, correct? >>


What kids are you talking about?

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:49pm

I don't have to be at work until 8 (theoretically, I could come in evern later, but 8 is standard), but I'm at my desk most days by 7;30 or 7:40. Those first 20-30 minutest give me a chance to setlle in, etc before the hustle and bustle of the day begins. I love it.


At one job, I offcially worked 7:30-4. Most of my staff didn't come in until either 8:30 or 9.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 11:53pm
Which part of "not that that probably matters" confused you?

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Kitty

"Flying there, yes you need a passport.... taking a cruise there you'd just need her to have a BC. If you took a cruise out of Port Canaveral you could spend one or two days at Disney to satisfy that, then a three or four day cruise to Bahamas and maybe Key West." -- Jamie's excellent and accurate advice with regard to travel documents needed when traveling internationally

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Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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