The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 10:06am

Here there is. ITs the Teen Parent Resources. Not the teen mother.


BUT, the programs such as Mothercare andNExt step are solely for women and men can not access those services...whihc I think is ridiculious.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 10:07am

Where is a 16 yr. old girl going to get money for diapers and formula if her 16 yr. old bf is not working?




I worked and went to school.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Registered: 08-27-2007
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 10:15am

We just played on the equipment. No drugs, gangs or vandels. They had playgroud equipment, we played. IT was dead centre in the middle of the cul de sac. We all lived within a block ot two. Easy to find an adult if there was trouble.


Honestly, I cant figure out why this is a bad thing. My mum could look out our front window and see me. My BF mum lived above the store across the road, she looked out the window.


After reading this thread I am surprised we survived.


None of us would ever thought to do any damage. This is our school. We had some pride in it.


I cant imagine my kids causing trouble at a place where everyone knows them, knows me and thier dad. Where people are comming in and out of constantly. It seems a bit overblown to connect a public school yard with such hazards.


Even at HS, we hung around, some people smoked, mostly we just talked about what we did that day and then went home. SO me of us had cruddy homes and didnt want to leave. Some kids, this was thier safe place.


There are always going to be those kids who cause trouble. But honestly I dont see the drama that others seem to see or post about.


I got pregnant at home where I lived with my boyfriend. Not at HS, not sneaking out during class. OR hanging out after school. We lived together.


None of the teen mums I know got pregnant after school on school grounds.


              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 10:33am

Nope. My oldest son is 6 ft 1 and 180 lbs. My oldest daughter is 4 ft5 and 63lbs.


Yep, I have a double standard. My son can walk to the store for me. My daughter can not. I have seen for myself that no one makes eye contact with a kid that big and yet they will stand up straighter and look at my smaller daughter as prey.


Double standard..yep. Dont care.


My son is physically stronger and much faster and better at defending himself. My daughter is delicate.


I will drop him off at the movies and leave and then go back. I will not do so with my daughter.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 10:40am

I took 1 course a day, put him in daycare for 3 hours and when I worked on weekends I took him with me as I did childcare for the YMCA and the womens shelter. When I went to college I went part time so he went to daycare for 3.5 hours. Every job I took I ensured he could either come with me or that he wouldnt be in daycare for more then 6 hours. I was very lucky that I could do this.


His dad decided to celebrate the New Year by getting drunk and sleeping with my best friend. I kicked him out. We lived together for 4 years at the time. But i survied quite well on my own with my father rendering as much help as he could.


              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Registered: 08-27-2007
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 10:40am
At 16 I was emanicipated.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 11:11am
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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 11:12am
Can I ask why if that it not too much of a personal question?
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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 11:25am

ITA, exempt versus non-exempt.

 

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 11:30am
Since she posted that she went on to college, it is pretty safe to assume that she graduated HS.

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