The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 2:43pm
No, they're not police officers, and they don't have guns.

They're employees of the district and get hired and trained by the district. I don't know what their official title is. They wear uniforms.
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 2:46pm

<<Why? Can you please explain?>>


I don't think it's good for a teen to be home alone on a regular basis, I think there is too much opportunity to find trouble,

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 2:52pm

<<The other kids you were speaking of that leave and come back to watch games.>>


Oh, it varies, kids are from all over the metro area.


<<Never heard of check in/out outside of the school day so I will say no. So who marks down in your are in or out of work, what type of day you are taking? >>


My younger son, in elementary school checks in and out of after care and if he leaves an after school activity and goes back to after school, he checks in....he's required to be supervisied or the teachers need to know where he is in the building, after school.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 2:55pm

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Well, it's a matter of trust and haven proven that the trust in this case is worthy. I think it's similar to the trust that I have when my son is home alone and he follows those rules without me supervising him."

How long as he been going to this school?

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No, that is not correct....1. It's not 6-12 and 2. I don't have a current 7th grader."

I understand it is a middle school and an upper school. So your son is in 8th grade, which is considered middle school. BUT...he can still hang out with 9th-12th grades, correct?

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It's unique as in the school allows the students to use the commons as a social center and allows the students to attend after school events without parental or being assigned teacher supervision."

No, they have an area for the kids to wait to be picked up. Not sure how "unique" that is as most areas of schools have places where kids get picked up-shrug.

"<< You did say that you allow him to be in a car with a teenage driver though. THAT would be a senior in high school, 17/18 yr. old, right?>>

I don't consider driving to be hanging out, but ymmv of course. Again, he is allowed to ride with approved drivers and yes, a couple of them are teenagers and not driving is not limited to seniors, nor is being a teenager limited to high school. My son has friends with older siblings. shrug."

They are all teenagers. That is all that needs to be said.

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His small group leaders go to the same school, they are siblings of his friends. His peer group, another teenager that he hangs out with, also are supervisors as they are chosen for this role."

And at these places, they are his supervisor.

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Yes, they have purchased pizza at a game, I have purchased pizza at a game... Yes, they are allowed outdoors, they aren't restricted to their seats."

Outdoors, like outside the gym or outside the building?

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 2:55pm

I would agree to that, I am also more cautious when I'm responsible for ds's friends.


But I also find, especially with my older son's friends, his friends are often the youngest siblings...so they have more freedom than my son and in turn he often has more freedom when he is with them.


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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 2:59pm

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That doesn't answer the question, how do you know that she comes right home and does exactly what she is supposed to do when home alone? I'm guessing the answer is the same as mine, trust."

Because either one of us is home or she will call me as soon as she gets in. It's doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out how much time it takes inbetween the club/activity being over to how long it takes to walk home.

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Again, because he chooses to stay at school, either to do his homework in the library, participate in activities after school or socialize with his friends in the commons. Again, his choice."

Every single day seems quite odd to me unless it was because he was waiting for you or your dh to get off of work to pick him up-shrug.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:01pm
Most likely because you are NOT a district, correct? Your kids go to private schools. Public schools can NOT have the local police patrolling the grounds as there are too many public school for each county. I also would not want the police to be doing that when there are other things more important. Most security guards, IME, are retired police officers.
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:02pm
That's kind of what I figured since you used the term security guard. We don't have any of those.
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:03pm

<<So you know how much time he his 'hanging out' after the clubs and activities. How long?>>


Again, why is how long they are

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:08pm

<< Public schools can NOT have the local police patrolling the grounds as there are too many public school for each county.>>


I assume you're speaking only for YOUR school?

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