The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:35pm
No police in the schools here, but they would be called if there were an incident. However, I live across from a MS, and I do see the police cruising by occasionally, though mostly after school, so I imagine that goes on informally.
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:40pm

Thank you for chiming in....


<-->claim that every kid can and does handle the freedom, but if my kids couldn't or didn't, i'd consider it my failure and my responsiblity to fix that, and i'm glad that my

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:41pm

Oh, for heaven's sake! Where are you getting from her posts--which VERY CLEARLY have stated about 20 times

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:43pm

"<< Public schools can NOT have the local police patrolling the grounds as there are too many public school for each county.>>

I assume you're speaking only for YOUR school? We do have the local police on school grounds. They aren't "patrolling" but are assigned to that school site as a School Resource Officer."

No, for my county. Sorry I wasn't specific enough.

"I think there is very little that is more important than the safety and education of the community's children."

A robbery, an assault, burglary, killing, someone needing assistance, a car accident, a fire....I think THESE are important things that the police should be at INSTEAD of school when there are security guards hired to do that.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:45pm

Again, well said and if my son couldn't handle this setup of hanging out with is friends in the commons after school (and I would know, the school would be letting me know, lol) then we would make other arrangements but honestly, I don't see much of a difference between him hanging out at school with his friends and hanging out with his friends at the mall or local Panera Bread, except that at school....there is a firm sense of belonging there, that they have ownership of the school and the responsibility to go with that honor.


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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:46pm

Yes, I agree....


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:48pm

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Again; yes and yes."

These practices and games are after 4, 5pm?

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So then you have no more questions on this subject, great."

lol!!

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Again; he goes to school and after school sometimes he does his homework in the library (needing research and/or wanting computer time), some days he has school activites after schoolm, sometimes he hangs out with his friends in the comomons, and sometimes he wants to watch the various games/practices that after school. He doesn't get picked up at the same time every day, it ranges from 4-4.45ish and sometimes later if he wants to watch the jv or varsity game."

Or as late as he can get a ride-gotcha.

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Yes it would fine and again, carpool or parents would get him home, if that was his choice."

HIS choice? You prefer he doesn't go home alone so it doesn't sound much like HIS choice at all.

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Okay......I'm certainly not going to forbid my son from making friends that have older siblings, exclude him from youth group, summer camps and the peer groups...but every parent should make their own decisions on this subject. Next year, he will be a little over 14 years old and be interracting with 17/18 year olds for at least 2 hours a day for months...through sports, I think it's good that we have eased into this situation and that he will know several of the older kids as siblings...shrug."

No problem with hanging out with 18 yr. olds but a problem with him staying home alone after school. What do you think your ds and his friends would do at your house, after school, alone that they wouldn't do hanging out, at night, outside a school building?

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:51pm

<-->students after school; it was thought that it was better to give kids access to gyms and libraries than to shoo them out into the streets and into often empty homes.>>


That was always my

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:53pm

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I don't, in smaller companies that is certainly possible but to have one person responsible for that in a larger company that could be multi state and even multi country, it would be impossible to have one person responsible, in our company."

I was never speaking of the different locations within my company. Just our one location.

"We have multiple layers of payroll and multiple different pay schedules, depending on if one is hourly and manufacturing or if one is the owner/ceo of the company. The person who handles the manufacturing and so forth payroll isn't the same person who handles the CEO's payroll."

Not sure how it works exactly at my company as I am not in payroll but there are many people who work in payroll so it might be divided by hourly, salary.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 3:53pm

There is no INSTEAD of here.

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