The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:11pm

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I don't believe that is a true/false type of statement....let alone apply it has a true/false type of statement to my life or my children's life. She has a right to her opinion, I simply don't agree with that opinion."

I find it interesting you don't agree with her opinion (even though I have heard this many times in my life not just esperons) but don't like the idea of your son being home alone after school.

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Seriously, asking this again? Again, he has only chosen to do that once. I have said in the past I don't want my children home alone after school on a regular basis, key is regular basis. Espersons is welcome to her opinion, but I don't believe in general kids will find trouble simply because they are hanging out together and everything else....sure kids get into trouble, but they don't have to be hanging out with their friends to find it. I don't agree with her thoughts on this issue."

Sorry to hear that as this is not a "new" finding. And yes, I am asking because you have not been straight forward to the reasons why you don't want your son to be home alone after school. I guess I don't really have to ask though as I pretty much have my answer but you are welcome to debate that.

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Yep, we had it for dinner last night and are having it again tonight, planned overs! Yum!"

Glad you found the time inbetween going to a basketball game to make this time consuming meal :)

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Again, I am okay with my sons hanging out with older kids in the specified ways I have mentioned numerous times now, they are again: siblings, peer groups, youth groups, camps and sports. Next year of course, in high school, he might even have classes with older kids...."

But not at home, alone, after school, because...in these places the older kids are the supervisors and at home, they would be just friends and could get in trouble. Gotcha.

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Parents and again because it hasn't been his choice. I'm not sure what is confusing about that....let me repeat it again, his choice."

So you would have NO problem if he chose to go home everyday and being alone at home, from school, instead of staying later?

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:13pm

MOre info on our SROs:


The (School Resource Officer) SRO program commenced in 1999 as a joint effort between the Xxxxxx Police Department and Xxxxxx Public Schools to staff full-time police officers in Xxxxxx schools. The SRO is under the direct supervision of the police department. There are currently three officers assigned as SROs. These officers are assigned to one of the three secondary schools: XXxxxx Middle School, Xxxxx Junior High or Xxxxxx High School. The SROs also cover the six elementary schools and Xxxxxxx Alternative Academy.

The SRO Program places uniformed police officers in schools in an effort to create and maintain a safe learning environment. The SRO's first duty is that of a sworn police officer, investigating crimes and activities associated with criminal behavior. However, they are not "campus police," but rather "police on campus" who promote a positive image through interaction with students, parents, teachers and administrators. We recognize that our youth are our future. We take a proactive approach with the schools to identify youth at risk, try to intervene with appropriate action plans, build healthy and trusting relationships, and encourage a forward looking approach to deal with the pressures today's young people face.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:14pm

Yes, you did say that.


"Every single day seems quite odd to me unless it was because he was waiting for you or your dh to get off of work to pick him up-shrug."


As the mother of a teenage daughter I can assure you

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:14pm

"And when I was in high school I either rode my bike home or took public transportation, as did most of my friends. The very idea of being routinely picked up by parents or carpooling with others (practically no one drove to school then) didn't even occur to us."

I took the bus and a handful of times drove my parents car. Maybe once or twice I got a ride from a friend but that would have had to been on a day where our schedules were the same and that was very rare. My parents never picked me up from school.

"Plenty of kids still live within biking/public transport distance of school. Surely by the time they hit high school they would likely have more options than catching a lift with a friend or waiting for a parent to pick them up."

And some live much farther though and might not have public transportation or it might not be safe to ride a bike or walk.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:16pm

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The "in general" that followed the words a kid, meant a general kid and not a specific child.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:16pm
Of course!
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:16pm

"Well, it's good you aren't paying taxes here then. I'm quite happy with the allocation to fund SROs"

I might be since I just wrote a half year check for $3,000 for my taxes-lol!!

"Security guards are NOT capable of doing the same job. The function the SROs provide is significantly different (more involved, more complex, with more authority) than what a security guard would be licensed, qualified, and legal to do."

Like what?

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:17pm
But this is not a "choice" thing as PKA is trying to say now. She has stated in the past and now in this thread that she does not prefer her son to be home, alone after school.
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:18pm
Do you really not understand the difference between a security guard and a police officer?














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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:19pm
My dh has a security guard license and I have many friends and family who are police officers so I am VERY aware of the difference-lol!!

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