The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 8:40pm
Plus it is increasingly more common for custody orders to prohibit the custodial parent from leaving the area without the agreement of the other parent.

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Registered: 11-12-2009
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 8:40pm

But their lifestyles are much different than the normal middle-class sahm.

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Registered: 11-12-2009
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 8:43pm

Not all divorced moms got married right out of high school and had no prior employment history. I personally have a gf who got a divorce last year and got a job right away. She had not worked in 10 yrs.


Again, not all parts of the country is lacking jobs as much as some parts.

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Wed, 12-09-2009 - 8:50pm
Really?
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Wed, 12-09-2009 - 10:08pm
In my state, there is no alimony, just child support.



They have spousal maintenance, which is similar in many ways to alimony though it would never be a life-long payment the way alimony sometimes can be or used to be.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 10:14pm
But let's say you have two moms with accounting degrees, one's been working for the last 10 years, while the other has SAH. The WOHM already has an income. The SAHM has to find a job, not likely an easy task with no recent work experience, and IF she finds a job, it will likely be at a significantly lower income than the mom who has been in the work force the past 10 years.



It would also matter what their husbands made. The SAHM might get temporary alimony or maintenance to enable her to return to school or get additional training, and the mom with the lower income may get more child support, depending on the state she lives in.



If the WOHM is the higher income earner and say they share custody 50/50, she can end up paying him child support while the SAHM would be (hopefully) receiving child support.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 6:30am
you're right,that kind of chit chat isn't my reality.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 6:36am

sometimes the contrary is true too..WOHM making little,livng paycheck to paycheck,limited budget and so on....do you really believe

 

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 6:44am

i thought she was a model.

 

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:06am
Could be. I just heard mention of her being a nanny on one of the many news blurps. Do not know if it is factual.

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