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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
| Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm |
There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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So if they are out for two weeks they wouldn't get a paycheck? As though they are hourly employees? Or are they paid hourly and that's the reason?
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
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How is it that a parent isn't taking care of the child while she's spending time with him?
Caretaking is part of parenting, not something separate that doesn't get "counted" when a parent does it. You're building a relationship with the child when you take care of her. Your definition of parenting is obviously different (and much less hands-on) than mine.
A parent who spends 8 hours with the child has far more opportunity for parenting than the parent who spends 2 hours with the child. Even if you insist that parenting has to include doing something beyond caretaking (which I don't believe), there's far more opportunity for that in 8 hours than in 2.
A slacker sahp might do less parenting in 8 hours than a motivated wohp in 2 hours, but you said you weren't talking about slackers.
In any case, her argument wasn't even about parenting--it was about whether someone who spends more time with the child is the primary "caretaker." I don't see the big deal there.
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"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .
Ime, payroll wise in a variety of companies....executives are paid a salary, xyz number of dollars a year, they aren't paid "vacation time" or "holiday time", they are simply made the same amount no matter what the day is.
PumpkinAngel
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Many children don't need care, I know when I spend time with my children...sitting right next to one right now, there isn't any care involved.
PumpkinAngel
No doubt lots of FT-WOHPs are.
Edited 12/19/2009 8:50 pm ET by harmony08
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
I'm not an executive in my company (just mid-level mgmt), but our compensation packages are similarly structured. Sick time is unlimited, but anything over a certain time out or work, is considered short term or long term disability, and compensation is insured rather than paid as straight salary. If I have a cold and take a day or two off, I get paid my usual salary; if I get hit by a bus, my company's disability insurance pays my salary.
Vacation is negotiated as part of the overall compensation package. I don't get paid for vacation, my salary includes regular compensation for six weeks off. Execs usually have similar vacation time structured into their contract, it's rare that we get to take it.
I would never conclude that I don't get paid for vacation, sick days, or personal time under this compensation package. The compensation package includes it.
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