The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:31am
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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:36am

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:39am


Yes, but I clarified in an earlier post that I don't think you can compare yourself to another mom.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:46am

<You should check out your local battered women's shelter. Over the course of a year, I am sure you could meet quite a few women who have put up with a lot from their husbands or partners, in part because they do not believe they could support themselves or their children should they choose to leave an abusive relationship. >


Of course!

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:53am


Who is "they"?

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:55am
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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 8:10am
Agreed.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 8:44am
Yes your state. Even if you moved and forgot to update your profile, I'd be surprised if any state has failed to allow for this. You may not know anyone who has gotten it, but I doubt you personally know enough divorcing or recently divorced SAHMs to draw conclusions from your sample.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 9:20am


Well, no, I didn't actually say I'd conducted a study.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 9:23am
Agreed. I just don't think it's a good thing for anyone to count on. IMO and IME, a divorcing parent needs to be prepared to support her/himself and their children without the benefit of child support. If they do receive it, then that's wonderful, but planning on receiving it can be disastrous.



I agree it's better to not count on it. But the fact is most who are ordered to pay child support do pay. If a woman is married to a man with a stable work history who cares about his career, odds are he's going to pay. If she's married to a man who has a spotted employment history or has opportunities to work for cash under the table, then she should not count on a dime.



I don't think SAH or WOH will across the board do better after a divorce. I think moms in the middle or upper middle classes are likely to do okay, moms who have a degree will do better, moms who chose a career path that will enable her to financially support her kids on her own will do better, moms who SAH but have a plan for re-entering the workforce will do better than SAH moms who do not, moms who married a stable career-man will do better than moms who married job hoppers. Whether they SAH/WOH is less important than other factors.

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