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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
| Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm |
There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Exactly. And if a court says you have equal rights to make religious, medical and educational decisions for your children but also get to have your children with you 60-80% of the time, that's going to feel different than if they convey to you all those same decision making rights but you can only have your children in your home 20-40% of the time.
I always want to be 50% or above. I don't want the challenge of being an effective parent with less than that.
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
so,what's your opinion..that the judge should have stepped in and ordered equal custody?
I'm disagreeing that they think of me as being in first place or as being the primary one to meet thier needs. They are able to understand that if my DH were here he would be doing exactly what I am doing. Therefore its not
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&n
Outside of cooking,
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&n
I'm not following this subthread at all, but as a parent of a teen and a couple of tweens, I parent them all the frickin' time, whether I'm with them or not.
I supervise their schoolwork, but they are responsible for it. I approve and chauffeur them to their chosen afterschool activities. I financially subsidize almost all their activities. They know that basketball and band will be supported, but the group trip to China is out of the question at this time.
I make all kind of decisions for them about what they can or can not do whether they are in my care or not. The kids and I are mostly copacetic .
YES!! ME too. I thought I was the only one who
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&n
While reading your posts I admired a cup YDD found in her brothers room that she was showing off to me, served as a human jungle gym for DS, mediated a dispute over another toy, and kissed a boo-boo. I think that is caregiving because of what I am doing, parenting because a parent is doing it.
Meanwhile dh is downstairs on a phone call working. He is just as much of a parent as me, can do most of the same things just as well, but he is not actively doing any parenting right at the moment. He is doing less than me this day in terms of interacting, and has since they were born, but in terms of ability, committment, caring and loving we are equals. In terms of long-term planning he probably does more than me, and in terms of providing so for he has done 100%. Ultimately we are parenting equals.
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
<-->school together or with their friends. That's pretty typical among the parents we know of younger teens/tweens.>>
I'm not ready for my kids to be home everyday after school unsupervised either, that would be a regular basis, imo and as I said earlier not something we do.
PumpkinAngel
I agree, which is I think the contributions of both the sahp and wohp in the op example should be considered as parenting, not just the sahp hours that he was able to have witnesses to confirm.
PumpkinAngel
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Yes....I think in a great number of cases, including this one, equal custody is in the best interest of the children.
PumpkinAngel
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