The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 1:16pm

As I have said before, I don't think it's in the benefit of the children to see that either.


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 1:26pm

<<What about interaction as supposed to supervision? To my kids its all about how much time they get to spend with me or DH. >>


For my kids, if we are all home together...the youngest (tween) wants to help or be involved in whatever is going on, the oldest is more of an independent sort who goes out and does his own thing.....but he of course has his moments of interaction.

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 1:42pm

What I mean is that even if my older dd wanted to hang out with her friends on school grounds, her school doesn't allow that, and I'm not ready for her to do that. You mentioned in a previous post that your son and his friends often hang out in the library doing homework or in the gym playing ball or whatever. That to me isn't that different from them being home together unsupervised.

However, I don't consider kids to be unsupervised when their parents are home, assuming the parents are actually checking on them.

I agree with you that being in the same house doesn't automatically equal parenting. However, the kind of parenting I'm talking about *does* require that the parent and child be together. So if one parent spends 8 hours with the child and the other spends 2 hours with the child, and both are equally motivated parents, the one who spends more time will do more parenting. Do you agree?

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 1:44pm
Oh, I can parent when I'm not with my children, just did so while I was at work, ds1 and I had a conversation via text that was definitely parenting, imo....lol.



Of course it was parenting, and you also spent time doing it, didn't you?

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 2:01pm
I agree completely. LOL about the cup.

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Jenna and Michael, lucky to have Adam, Mady, Aidin and Bryn.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 2:06pm

DITTO. Right now the youngest is beside me attaching the reindeer horns she had forgotten to glue on 2 minutes ago..so now my key board and hands are full of gold glitter. Ugh.

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Jenna and Michael, lucky to have Adam, Mady, Aidin and Bryn.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 2:19pm
Lol...good luck getting that off!
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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 2:40pm
That's another way you can identify whether there is one primary caregiver, ask each parent to list the number of places they have experienced glitter. If both can do it, they are more than likely fairly equal caregivers. :P

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 3:32pm

OMG that is so true.


And whoever has the clean shirt at the end of the day loses.

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Jenna and Michael, lucky to have Adam, Mady, Aidin and Bryn.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 7:10pm

my oldests are 10.5 and 12.5,i have left them home unsupervised for periods of time.

 

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