The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 12:15am

I lived across the road from my school growing up and we all hung out there b/c we have a severe shortage of parks. I would rather see kids hang around thier school then down town.


My kids school is too far out of town to play there, but if it were closer they would play there with my blessing (the one I homeschool obviously plays at home)

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 9:36am
i grew up behind a school that had swings, a park like setting.

 

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 10:18am

Timely story, ds1 texted me yesterday and asked if he could stay after school instead of coming home....seems a bunch of his friends were staying to watch the high school basketball games after school and he wanted to stay and watch.

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 12:34pm

I don't think it's dangerous, but I do understand why middle schools here don't allow kids in the building unsupervised (or on the grounds, when the building is open). There are liability issues as well as parental expectations.

I live across the street from a MS, and I'm always happy to see neighborhood kids using the basketball or tennis courts there (I wouldn't be thrilled if there were a smoking hill though ;)). But that's after school hours and activities there are over.

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 4:50pm

in tennis, BB there's a reason for being there.

 

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 5:44pm

why don't they have something to do, someplace to be that i wonder.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 8:26pm

My kids are pretty busy kids as well and enjoying down time is not a negative in my book either....I don't think kids need something to do or some place to be all the time either.

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Wed, 01-06-2010 - 10:46pm
I'm a big fan of downtime, but it doesn't have to be unsupervised.
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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 4:25am

I tend to the idea that it is important for kids to have some unsupervised time to themselves. Perhaps because the best times of my own childhood were spent outside the direct supervision/presence of adults.

With dd, I started when she was a baby, by putting her in her room to play by herself as soon as she could sit up. Short periods at first, and obviously I was in the next room. From there we built up to short periods by herself while I went to the store, then walking to school by herself and going out to play by herself in the evenings. It was a very gradual process and always pitched to what I thought she could reasonably and safely handle. This summer, at 16, she went on her first trip that was longer than a day trip, without any adult involvement.

At what age would you consider leaving kids unsupervised?

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 6:37am

I don't think kids need something to do or some place to be all the time either.

 

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