The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 1:10pm
So then if my kids hang out after school or choose to attend a basketball game that is at school, after school....and there are teachers and staff present (but not directly responsible), are my kids supervised or not?



Supervised but the level of supervision may vary greatly.

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 1:19pm
No offense, but I find line of sight as the only definition of supervision kind of silly.



I think unsupervised is easier to define in black and white terms. If nobody is around, nobody can see them, nobody knows exactly what they are doing, won't hear them or might randomly walk in on them, they are unsupervised. If supervised, they could be watched, heard, checked on, etc. I definitely feel I am supervising my kids when I can hear them, they don't become unsupervised when I turn my back to do the dishes, or leave the room for a bit.



Do the teachers know who is in the building and check on them occasionally?



I think schools handle this by closing things up, turning out the lights and locking the doors when the adults leave. If things are open and activities are going on, usually there are teachers and/or parents involved in some capacity. That doesn't mean kids couldn't be hanging out unsupervised outside on the school grounds after school, if the parents let them that is.

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 1:31pm

i'm familiar enough with school to know hwen things occur, school plays are in the evening, her second school dance is friday, DD has never experessed interest in sticking around to watch a sport so i can't comment there.

 

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 1:31pm
Yes, unsupervised is easier to define since there are gradations of supervision. If teachers being in the gym while kids are attending an afterschool game is "supervision," I'd consider it a pretty low level of supervision. As a practical matter, it seems more akin to the "neighborhood watch" idea. But if somebody wanted to bring a lawsuit, you could make an argument the school is responsible for those kids since they're on school property at a school function, which wouldn't be the case if they were at the neighborhood coffee shop.
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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 2:40pm

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I think you are forgetting the suburban district that I live in currently...it's common there as well.

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 2:48pm

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What kids?

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 2:50pm

OH yes, it's very much like the neighborhood watch that she talked about, I really like that my kids feel like their school is a neighborhood....a community.


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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 2:52pm

Well said.....


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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 2:55pm

So again, if she wanted and asked to stay after school to watch a game or something else, what then?

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 3:00pm
We can't make it to every kid-related activity, or sit there for the entirety of it. There are a number of instances where the kids are supervised by a coach, a teacher, or a volunteer parent. I still consider them supervised for those, just not supervised by one of their own parents/steppparents.

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