The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 9:31am

It's three years from the final date of the divorce decree, so if it takes a year or two to get divorced, add that to the three years. When you are in the divorce process all income is still "ours" so maintenance can be granted while in the process of divorcing too.

I'm not saying anyone should count on it. I'm countering the claim you made that your state doesn't have alimony - they do they just don't call it by that name.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 9:39am
I stayed in an abusive relationship for this reason. B/c I was terrified of losing my kids. My Ex was not above telling lies, he informed me that he would have the kids taken from me.. ITs not paranoia for those who live it.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:03am


I do appreciate the fact that DH has a stable job, but he was a waiter in his family's restaurant when we married.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:10am


We don't have alimony.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:10am

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:11am
It is now called "spousal maintenance", at least IME and I thought you got it until you remarried.
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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:16am

lucky her for finding a job.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:21am
<It is now called "spousal maintenance", at least IME and I thought you got it until you remarried. >

In my state, it appears it is limited to 3 years, which is why I don't think they are the same thing.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:25am
I get that. My mom was the model for don't depend on anyone and I learned that lesson well, a little too well. I'm hoping to teach my dd's to be self reliant but also pick a guy who can support her if necessary. Not that she has to be supported, but so that's an option.

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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:40am
Banking, not sure of her pay but I guess it is enough to pay the bills as she got the house in the divorce.

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