The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 6:51pm

Can I ask you HOW you know what these kids are doing, where they are roaming and who is actually there with them if no parents are in the school with them?


While I have NO problem with my child going to extra help after school, rehearsals after school, practice after school or studying in the library after school, I see NO need for my child to be roaming around the school, supervised or unsupervised.


Are there no after school buses to take them home? Are they waiting for their parents to pick them up? If they want to hang out with their friends, why can't they just go to one of their homes? Why encourage them to start hanging out at such a young age?

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Registered: 01-07-2010
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 6:58pm
that is pretty much my thought.
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Registered: 12-31-2009
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:01pm

Do you think it is the same when a teenage girl gets pregnant than a boy who gets a girl pregnant? Do you find it ok for your teenage dd to hang out with boys with no supervision?


How come your ex wasn't aware of the dangers?

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:03pm

The image that's creepy is that the school is empty, lights are off, nobody is there, and the kid is wandering the hallway alone. (Cue Twilight Zone music).

One time in college my DH fell asleep in an obscure part of the campus library, and when he woke up it was closed and everyone was gone. He described it as creepy.















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Registered: 01-07-2010
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:05pm

makes no sense?

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:08pm

Except that permitted activities don't include being in the building just hanging out or coming and going for no reason.

If kids are there after school, and they're not in a supervised activity, they can wait for rides in the commons, but that is supervised. We don't have any way to lock off hallways.

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:10pm
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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:12pm

Yes, I think there's a huge variation in what parents are okay with. And I do think it's about liability as well as parental expectations.

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:12pm
Of course they should but how many teenage moms do you know leave the father and he gets the child to raise?
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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 7:19pm

don't understand how that is relevant to the debate at hand.

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