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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
| Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm |
There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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As someone who wroked with teen parents I have seen it in about 30% of the cases I have worked on. The other 70% have either 50/50 or the mum has custody.
*Praying for my best friend, my Dad*
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Using one personal anecdote to call someone else's parental opinion "stupid" is, well, let's say it's easy to dismiss as a serious debate position.
My children/stepchildren are also taught that bad things can happen to anyone and how to be careful to avoid danger. That was not where I said the gender difference would come into play. I'm just not going to pretend that criminals act and crime occurs, always, no matter what just because we want it to be fair, in an "equal opportunity" manner.
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Huh? It could be my son's gf too. I will apply the same rules for all my children based on their maturity level and personality traits.
I will encourage them to remain abstinent until they are mature enough to handle a sexual relationship. If they decide to have sex before I think they're ready, I've let them know that they may contact their doctor and consult with him without my intervention or permission. So far, no boyfriends or girlfriends on the radar, so they're fine with the rules.
My dd and I have had the embarrassing no sex/safe sex discussion a couple of times. My ods and I had it for the first time right after he turned 12. It's painful for both of us, but necessary, IMO.
I plan to apply the same standards to my boys and girl. If one breaks a rule, there will be consequences, but the same general rules will apply.
Didn't you state there were different rules for your girl and boy? What are the differences?
I'm pretty sure that I already answered that.
Your personal anecdote of safety based on manly size and penis is stupid. I could have worded it more delicately, but it doesn't make it any less ...illogical.
BTW - violent crime is 3 times more likely to happen to men than women. That's where gender differences come into play.
I don't know--now it sounds like you're relying on the other parents being there. I rely on my kid too, but I can't control what other kids do or what situations may come up when kids are just hanging out with no adult supervision. But if your ds is ready to handle those situations, and the school isn't concerned about kids just socializing after school, there's really no debate. I *do* understand that parents differ on how much supervision they feel is needed and at what age.
And yes, my dd's school *is* different from yours in many ways, and so is our school district. One difference is that although our school is heavily used after school, not just during school hours and evenings, kids don't come and go on an unsupervised basis. They have to be there for a reason other than just hanging out. I understand that seems odd to you, but it's typical for MS kids here.
Edited to say that I didn't mean to include that icon.
Edited 1/7/2010 8:29 pm ET by mom34101
Agreed, but the girl pays a heavier price for a bad decision.
I'm also thinking about sexual assault, which can happen among teens, usually girls.
For this sort of thing I would apply the same rule to sons and daughters.
Ten Rules for Being Human
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
Not only did I live in Manhattan for several years, but I also lived in the South Bronx for four years. You can get mugged just about anywhere, no matter what sex you are. The best thing I can do for my kids is to teach them how to be aware of their surroundings at all times, and what to do in the event that they find themselves in a bad situation. It's amazing how many people walk around in the city with their head down, looking at the pavement in front of them, nervous about their surroundings. They are the perfect target.
I read a book years ago called Protecting the Gift. It was incredibly interesting but what I remember most about the book is to trust your instincts.
Huh? It could be my son's gf too. I will apply the same rules for all my children based on their maturity level and personality traits.
True and he is lucky he has you to back him up. Many other parents are not there and the boys bail. Those other parents could be your dd's bf's.
I will encourage them to remain abstinent until they are mature enough to handle a sexual relationship. If they decide to have sex before I think they're ready, I've let them know that they may contact their doctor and consult with him without my intervention or permission. So far, no boyfriends or girlfriends on the radar, so they're fine with the rules.
That does not mean they will not do what they want.
My dd and I have had the embarrassing no sex/safe sex discussion a couple of times. My ods and I had it for the first time right after he turned 12. It's painful for both of us, but necessary, IMO.
ITA with you. It IS necessary.
I plan to apply the same standards
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