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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
| Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm |
There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Do you have some stats to back that up?
I read the local paper, including the crime report, and honestly, there are many more muggings/robberies reported that involve men, than women. I don't know the actual stats, but I'd be surprised if women are more likely victims than men (rapists excluded).
Several years ago, in broad daylight, a teenage boy that goes to the high school affiliated with my kids' grammar school, was walking home from school. He was in a residential neighborhood. A drug addict jumped him and bit the living crap out of him, stealing his cell phone. He was beaten so badly he was hospitalized. Fortunately, a man driving by in a car witnessed the tail end of it, called 911 and jumped out to help the boy while the attacker ran off. The police ended up catching him thanks to the good Samaritan. It was pretty shocking to everyone b/c it happened at 3:00 in the afternoon less than a mile from school.
Could it have happened to a girl? Sure. I wonder though if some males feel more guilty about trying to rob women, rather than men, even if women are less of a threat. You know the old, "boys aren't ever supposed to hit a girl" thing that we were taught as kids.
The flip side of this is that she can abort even if he feels strongly against that, and he can fairly easily be cut out of the childs life and be stuck with 4 days a month to bond with and raise his child. Plus he usually cannot wash his hands of his financial responsibility, our government has become pretty good at child support enforcement (he could turn out to be a deadbeat but my son/stepsons are not being raised to be that). Plus the risk of STDs affect both genders equally enough that as a parent I see no reason to have different rules for different sons vs daughters.
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Again, HUH? I thought we were talking about how we set the standards of behavior for our children, not other other people's children. My dd knows my rules, and if she breaks them and gets pregnant, it would be disappointing for me, but a devastating change for her, same as my boys. I would hope they'd grow up too fast with too many responsibilities, but it would not be an easy path.
I will treat my children the same, based on their maturity level and personality traits. The fact that my daughter has a uterus does not affect the limits I will set for her as opposed to my sons.
You stated in post 702:
"I am more cautious of my dd doing things than I know I will be with my ds. "
What's the caution? What pass will your ds get?
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Do you mean my son and his friends?
PumpkinAngel
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Oh, lol...that's what was meant.....no, that's not the picture here.
PumpkinAngel
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I'm not seeing the difference here.
PumpkinAngel
It's also about the kids.
PumpkinAngel
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