The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 4:07am

You actually think you can prevent teen pregnancy by curtailing your daughter's independence? Good luck with that one.

As far as hanging with boys, my dd has always had friends who were of the penis-equipped variety, and she has been allowed to maintain such friendships throughout her school years. I think it is important for kids to have actual friends of the opposite sex, and not letting them be alone sends a strong message that you expect them to have sex orgies the minute your back is turned. That is not an expectation I was interested in setting.

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Edited 1/8/2010 4:56 am ET by rollmops2009
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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 4:12am
Oh, I always wanted to do that - spend the night in a closed library or museum. As a kid, I would always try to find a good hiding place, lol.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 4:23am

"Will you not allow your teenage DD to date or will you go along on all of her dates to supervise? "

Yeah, seriously. As far as I can see, girls avoid getting pregnant when they have better things to do and goals for their lives. It also helps if they have a clue what birth control is. Even Rapunzel got knocked up, in spite of being locked in the tower. IMO, it is completely misguided to think that zealous supervision and making boys verboten are the answer. If anything, that will simply make the whole business all the more alluring, and you really don't need to enhance teenagers' interest in sex.

I also sometimes wonder what people who hold such convictions did themselves as a teens, to make them have such a dim view of their own kids.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 4:38am
That just happened to a friend of ours. The baby was put up for adoption by the mother, and 50 years later, that baby finally tracked down his bio-dad. Our friend is in his 70s, and that baby was his first kid (that we know of anyway).

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 7:08am

I had some cousins who had the no dating before 18 rule in their house. One found away around that, getting pregnant during her school lunch break.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 8:54am

sure.

 

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 8:55am

Except that permitted activities don't include being in the building just hanging out or coming and going for no reason.


ITA.

 

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 8:58am
darn you for dragging the levi johnson and palins scuffle into this.

 

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 9:07am

i work with the st.gabriel project and outward ministries like this at my church and have to say when there's a NEED, it's the GIRLS who ask for assistance not the boy..i would hope in the big picture, there's support at home wrt teen pregnancies that we just don't hear about more than this sample of personal experience.

 

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 9:12am
not to smack fun at your post but having gone to an all girls high school, the all boys high school was

 

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