The Working Mom and Custody Issues

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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm

There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:20am
safety is important for all people to learn, boys and girls. i want to prevent my son from being even a 1% statistic.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:23am

I certainly don't think my son is some how protected against attacks, simply because he's a male.


I don't get what's a double standard here.


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:26am

Not at all.

Rape - 73% of the victims of sexual assault know their attacker. Same stats with pedophiles. To avoid becoming a victim, I will teach the same lessons to both my boys and my girl.

Bullies - I'm not sure where you make an illogical leap that girls are bullied more than boys. Stats show that bullies usually pick on there own gender, and since more boys are bullies, it would logically follow that more boys are bullied.

Abduction is so rare it doesn't even make the top 100 things I worry about in regards to my children, but it did keep me up at night I would be worried about the .0000001 chance that my son would be abducted as well as the .000001 chance my daughter would be abducted. (stats illustrative only, I didn't bother to look them up)

No gangs where you live? I admit I live in a quiet little burb, but my children like to get out to events in the city that can attract a certain element, be it a movie theater, athletic event, or even a shopping mall. They are not immune to that exposure.

I am more convinced that I must teach my sons and daughter to have an awareness of situations and people that can be dangerous. When they were young it was stranger danger. Now that they are tweens and teens, I worry about peer pressure and hormones inhibiting their ability to make good decisions. I don't feel my sons are any more protected from dangers than my daughter. If either is walking down a dark alley at night, I would question the choices that lead them there and hope that they safely extricate themselves and not do it again.

I see no advantage in making different supervision choices for my children based on gender at the tween and young teen age.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:27am

<<I can't imagine why my MS stepson would hang out at his school for no reason either.>>


Okay....let's toss another shocking piece of my life out there to debate, lol....my ms son also wants to go to school early, most of the kids in fact arrive about 25-30 minutes before school starts.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:29am
Yes, there is always a way, as literature amply attests.

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Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.

Oscar Wilde

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:32am

<<At a sports event or play, kids, teachers, and parents are all in the stands or in the theater together. >>


....yes and busy doing other things.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:34am

You think so?


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PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:37am

I was using my experience....a couple hundred children from the ages of 6th grade to 8th grade, ime...the girls are often much bigger than the boys...isn't it fairly common for girls to mature faster than boys?

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:37am
both. she said you do with your
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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:40am

Oh....I thought her post was related to what mom34101 and I were talking about as it was posted.

PumpkinAngel

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