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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
| Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm |
There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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Well, given the way it is written, I think it's up for interpretation as she didn't convey that thought very clearly. I thought she meant that you had two boys and didn't really worry about it but maybe you might if you had a daughter. But she has a boy and a girl and will be more protective of her dd, even if that is a double-standard.
I could be totally wrong - but I was assuming that *she* knows it's a double standard but she doesn't care. Not that YOU were the one with a double standard. Perhaps you are right though!
So are you saying kids are allowed to be only in the commons, gym, field, or library? Is there anyone supervising kids in those areas?
I consider having teachers, parents, staff in the same room with kids for an event a limited form of supervision. I don't think parents and teachers being in the building while kids are in various areas of the school is supervision, no. But even if I did, it isn't comparable to the level of supervision that we have at my dd's school.
I don't know how I can be more clear about this. After school, at our school, kids are not allowed to go to the commons, gym, field, or library as you describe (we don't even have a gym or a field). They are not allowed to come and go as they please from these or other areas. They must be in a supervised activity (club, tutoring, rehearsal, etc.). That means they are in a room with a teacher who knows they are there and is supervising them. When the activity ends, they can go to another supervised activity or to the commons to wait for the late bus. There's a security guard, and he doesn't let them come and go from the building. When the bus or their ride arrives, that's when they can leave. (In fact, my dd was annoyed with the security guard recently because she wanted to wait for the bus outside and he wouldn't let her.) This is quite a bit more supervision than what you're describing.
I don't think that rules need to be the same for all schools. We're in an urban school district. We have security guards; your kids don't even have to lock their lockers. It sounds very different in lots of ways. We don't even have to agree to disagree.
If kids were acting up in a show, they'd be removed. There are multiple staff as well as ushers at shows at our school. I've never seen that happen though. This is an arts school--these kids live for this stuff.
I guess there is more supervision at shows than at games, then, because kids know they can't talk during the show, get up from their seats, etc. That would disrupt the show.
I'm not sure why you're insisting I'm giving different answers to identical examples. I've said shows are more similar to games and events because everyone is there for a purpose and there is a beginning and ending (however, you've just convinced me games are a little different, since kids can talk, get up and move around, etc. so probably even less supervision). I'm comparing what happens at events at my school to what happens at events at your school. Both involve limited supervision. But I don't think the level of supervision for the other stuff you describe happening at your school after school is the same.
For shows, they don't check in, but they have to buy a ticket, and there's a security guard who keeps people from wandering around. I've been to a number of shows, and I haven't seen any problem with that. Kids hang out in the intermission area with their friends--that's where the pizza is.;)
And honestly, I think you have the impression that lots of MS kids are going to shows unsupervised. Since kids come from all over the metro area, dropping them off isn't very convenient. (It's definitely not practical for us.) Plus, the shows are great--I really enjoy going. I don't anticipate my dd going to many shows unaccompanied until she's in HS and can drive herself.
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So it's not common iye?
PumpkinAngel
Well I'm sure that's part of it yes....especially with siblings, one kid
PumpkinAngel
Why do you need to see a reason?
<-->school, in the school, comes home to do homework and then sometimes activities after that someplace else.>>
Home alone?
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So wanting to watch that basketball game the other night, working on his paper in the library and shooting hoops with is buds...is just what?
PumpkinAngel
So what's the double standard you were talking about earlier?
PumpkinAngel
So it's not common iye?
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