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The Working Mom and Custody Issues
| Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:24pm |
There was an article in this month's Working mother magazine about wrking mom's losing custody to SAHD's.

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LoL... those are centered around the commons.
PumpkinAngel
By treating genders differently, isn't that creating a double standard though?
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Yes, you have.
PumpkinAngel
<<And there is no formal check-in/check-out after school, so I don't know what you're talking about there. >>
So then how do they know how is there and who isn't without a formal check in/out?
PumpkinAngel
No, a double standard is unjust. Treating them in a way that keeps both groups safe, and is reasonable and fair (even if different procedures are used), is not unjust, and is therefore not a double standard. I may have different rules or take different precautions, but I don't have different principles for each gender. The principle is the same - be safe. Safe is affected by the reality of the world out there, which can result in a need for heightened awareness for certain groups based on their characteristics, such is the reality of risk.
Example: The fact that a gay person is treated differently by society is a double standard, it is unjust. The fact a parent might be more worried and concerned about their gay child, and might spend more time to help ensure their gay child is safe, is just, fair, reasonable and a good thing. It's a reaction to a double standard by society, but it is not a double standard on the part of the parent.
Additionally, a double standard affords more privileges to one group over another. I'm not planning to give more privileges to my son over my daughters. It's not like they care about being allowed to walk alone, they care about getting from point A to point B. I think the boys might get from point A to point B a little differently than the girls, as one possible scenario. Another example: I am fine with my OSS hanging out in town after dark in town when he is done with an activity and I am still in class. He has walked several blocks and waited in the Starbucks until I could get him. He is okay waiting, and I am okay with it because I perceive the risk as low. I wouldn't do that with my ODD at the same age, I'd perceive that risk as measurably higher than for my OSS, so in that case I might leave class early, allow it if ODD can find a friend to stay with her, or make other arrangements. It's not removing a privilege, nor is it unjust. It's just a matter of the planning logistics while taking into account the risk.
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