? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:53pm
I am sure that is true but I don't think the
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:53pm

You don't think what's not that easy?


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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:54pm

Then maybe they should.


Geeze.


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Ducky

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:55pm

<So this is off-topic, but I am confused about your tax bracket discussion. Are you saying that if you make more money, you would lose all of it to taxes because of an increased tax rate on your entire combined income? >


Yes and no :)

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:55pm

It's called a starter home.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:55pm
Who said anything about easy?

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:56pm
Of course I know about different tax brackets. It has taken us awhile but we are in a different bracket than when we first got married. We get alot of taxes taken out also but when raise time comes, we usually get the same in our pocket each year as our raises are not that high to go into another bracket and eat up what extra we get.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:56pm
To sell your home and downsize.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:57pm

<I guess homeownership is more important to my myself

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:58pm

Who ever said it is easy?


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Ducky

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