? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:06pm

Exactly!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:07pm

Do you not take pride that you own your own home? That you don't give your money away each month to someone else and not have anything in return or equity if needed?


I have never taken it lightly that I own my own home and I know there are many people out there that will never will.

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:07pm
I have to agree with you. I have seen a pattern of houses sitting on the market for long periods (six months to a year), followed by a foreclosure. It looks to me as though people would prefer to sell their house than be foreclosed upon, but the falling housing values have made it difficult to get back what they need to get back.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:07pm

But, but, but.....If

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Ducky

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:07pm

Why would I believe a mortgage broker's opinion of what I can afford over my own?


Anyone who takes on a mortgage (or any type of debt) based on someone else's assertions that they can afford it is downright foolish.


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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:08pm
But here's the thing. There are no houses in my area that cost double our income or less. The house I rent has a rent higher than the monthly payment for a similar house with a mortgage 3 times our income. We're probably going to end up buying, because our monthly housing costs (even with insurance and property taxes) will be less than our current housing costs while renting.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:09pm

Are you contending that apartment living is superior to home-ownership when children enter the picture?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:09pm

She probably has enough pride to know that if she couldn't afford her home, she'd be better off renting than losing the thing.


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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:09pm

I do not take it lightly that I am able to own my own home as I know there are many who never will. I appreciate that I have had this opportunity in my life and will do the best I can to keep it as long as we would like and then go own another home if that comes up in the future.


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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:10pm
< Do you not take pride that you own your own home? That you don't give your money away each month to someone else and not have anything in return or equity if needed?

I have never taken it lightly that I own my own home and I know there are many people out there that will never will. >


WTF????

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