? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:11pm

Are you saying it can't be?


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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:11pm
ITA with you but people are doing this all the time. They do not know how to budget and maybe some can not because of their changing salaries.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:11pm

So, what's your point?


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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:13pm

What does that have to do with this discussion?


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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:13pm

We are in the same situation as we could not downsize because our mortgage, taxes, homeowners and utilities is less than rent.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:13pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:14pm
Especially names of towns that are not on LIE signs.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:16pm

Home ownership is very important to me as it is to others IME.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:17pm

She must be typing with invisible ink, because I didn't see the word "superior" anywhere in her post.


I believe what she's saying is that it can be a suitable living arrangement.


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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:17pm
We were speaking of why people lose their homes. Too high mortgages taken on, that they can not afford is one of the reasons.

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