? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:26pm



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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:26pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:28pm

If you think this debate is so stupid, why are you in it?


My priority in life should be saving and giving away my money but not investing in my future by owning a home? By owing my own home, my net worth could be more than a renter just saving every month. I have savings on top of that so I think I am doing pretty good.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:28pm
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Are you joking or serious?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:28pm
Good points.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2005
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:29pm
I don't think much of this debate has centered on achieving homeownership. There has been a great deal more discussion about whether one should give it up if faced with economic difficulties.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:30pm
Not answering usually ends a debate :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:30pm


This assumption is SOOOOOO freaking annoying.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:31pm
{snort!}
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:33pm

<Not answering usually ends a debate :) >


You are right.

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