? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:36pm
Having gone through kelly's bankruptcy with her I do wish she could have accepted the writing on the wall sooner and sold the property rather than have it foreclosed on -- but she had gotten so deeply in the whole from loss of work from going to school, school costs and, let's be frank, some pretty bad decisions along the way (which she freely admits)

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:38pm

I have never said what your priority should be.

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Ducky

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:40pm

If I cared to answer rather than be silent, then I would be honest and say that we took a loss and had to rent until we could build up our savings and own a home again.

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:40pm



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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:43pm

You did not answer the question.


The question was, if you sold your home, would you say that you lost it?


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Ducky

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:46pm

That wasn't the question.



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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:47pm

Of course it would be

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:47pm


There are many times when it just doens't make sense to own a home.

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:49pm

That very much was your question.

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:52pm
DH and I were trying to figure out if we would have been better off to have purchased a house last year instead of renting. With the way the market is going, we didn't lose anything by renting. The housing prices are a good bit lower this year, so we're actually better off buying now than we would have been if we had bought last year.
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