? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:52pm

I suppose if you choose to look at it that way.

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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:53pm

Ask who?


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Ducky

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:53pm

"You're" referred only to PNJ.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:57pm
<"You're" referred only to PNJ.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:58pm
which really? I still don't get the big whoop de doo.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 2:59pm
It is relevant.
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:03pm
The writing on the wall isn't always clear. I've known more than a few really bright, hardworking people whose downfall was that they were eternal optimists who fully expected to pull out of the downward spiral. I find that to be worlds apart from the people who know where they are headed, but refuse to find a better solution because of pride.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:08pm

So how much equity are you building now? I believe I have a 6 figure paper loss on my home this year. I'm not sweating it, because I have no intentions of buying up.

Selling during the boom market and renting for awhile puts Ducky and family in a great position to buy now, which I believe they plan on doing.

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:10pm

It would be tragic, wouldn't it?

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:13pm

<It is relevant.

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