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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:29pm
But I still come back to how none of that is any big deal.

 

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:29pm
Really? I have been in my home for
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:29pm
IME smart people downsize before they are ruined financially.

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:29pm

Way to run off on a tangent.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:31pm

I think you're incorrect, in that, again, smart people don't overmortgage themselves.


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Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:31pm

When is renting after owning a home ever a good idea under the facts discussed here - a couple works up to buying their own home and has young children....

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:33pm

When a job loss and medical expenses prevent you from being able to make the mortgage payment.


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Ducky

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:33pm
Then why do you own rather than rent?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:34pm
Again....so WHAT???? Good lord it's not like they drown puppies for fun or sell their kids to carnival sideshows...they live in an apartment...the whole wonderful happy family of them.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:35pm
Hey, did you ever figure out the

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