? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:36pm
No, I'm not contending anything about apartment living versus living in a house in the post you were responding to.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:37pm

becaus at the time it was the right decision for me to do with the lump sum of money I got from David buying me out of the house.

 

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:37pm
I am incorrect that smart people do not over-mortgage (because you would be surprised) or that is the amount you need to afford the average price of a home on LI?
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:37pm

Katie, you silly, silly woman.


Don't you know, one must OWN a McMansion and let their dh's take care of them in order to acheive happiness?

Ducky

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:38pm
I was on the LIE yesterday, and one of the exit signs said, " Bagatelle Wyandanch Dix Hills."

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:38pm

Wouldn't an emergency fund supplement at that time then?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:39pm
I really like your thought process.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:39pm

you know the interesting thing -- when we went through kelly's bankruptcy and we knew she was going to be foreclosed on at one point I thought "oh boy how will we survive this?" and.... you know what?

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:40pm

Are you saying I'm debating in favor of renting vs. home ownership, across the board?


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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:40pm

Uh, haven't we gone over this before?


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