? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:41pm

So there were no other exits you noticed or because you took that one off the LIE?


I wouldn't just throw a name out at you where you live unless I knew exactly what type of area it was and that I knew you would even want to

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:41pm

<Really? I have been in my home for

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:41pm
I have adopted no proposition in this subthread on buying vs. renting.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:43pm
Didn't it ruin her credit for a good 10 years though?
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:44pm


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:45pm
What?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:45pm

I thought this comment was just in general and not about you since everyone says how important it is to have an emergency fund.


I also think some people's priorities are in the wrong place and they COULD save themselves from losing their homes if they rethought their budgets per month.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:48pm
Now I know why all roads lead to Damascus. It's for the icecream.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:48pm

Yeah but that's what she has to face and she can live with it and she can rebuild it.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:48pm
When they can't afford to own?

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