? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:49pm

That's terrible.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:49pm

I also think some people's priorities are in the wrong place and they COULD save themselves from losing their homes if they rethought their budgets per month.


So, now we are back to you thinking that home ownership should be a priority for everyone?


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Ducky

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:50pm
I own because we can afford it, we can handle the maintenance and other homeowner responsibilities and we like our home, which was available for purchase, not lease.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:51pm
Can't remember now, but I'll think about it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:52pm
Because people who overmortgage, although a common phenomenon, are not smart.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:53pm



And when that runs out???

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:53pm
No, I think that someone who has a home and really wants to keep it, could change their priorities, for at least a set amount of time until they can afford to continue with what they were spending it on originally.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:53pm
I have no idea what that area is like.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:54pm
Hmmmm....not that many places on the water over there, but if you remember, let me know. Thanks :)
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 3:54pm
No, they

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