? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:21pm
They have great food at such low prices!
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:22pm

....someone was giving an example about moving every three years and their mortgage was the same, they traded up houses each time.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:22pm
I am telling her from my experience in knowing others who have been fired before that it all depends on the company if they want you to get benefits or not.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:23pm
I've been to Port J, but just once, so I wouldn't claim to know it's flavor. We ate in a restaurant on the water, but it must be pretty forgetable as I don't remember the name of it or what I had.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:23pm

No, I think that person would still qualify for unemployment benefits.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:24pm

Oh...but I didn't say it was, such a pesky little detail there, ;)

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:25pm

It's so bizarre to hear someone who has never lived or worked in NY tell you what you're supposed to think!




Edited 3/25/2008 3:28 pm ET by sehorse
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:25pm

So it depends on the company if they follow state law or not?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:27pm
So just admit that you do not think that your company or other NY employers have to follow NY labor laws, if they do not wish to, and that your experience trumps actual laws in NY and that you are not wrong. All fantasy of course.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:27pm

Your "thank you" gave you away.

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