? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:29pm
Probably Danfords because there are not many restaurants ON the water in Port Jeff.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:30pm

No, it was simply expressing gratitude, really nothing to do with compliments, but I love the spin...it's interesting, lol.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:30pm
I am just speaking from experience. Not everything in life is set in stone.
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:30pm

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:32pm
It depends on if the employer feels they want you to receive benefits. Like I said, most people do get it and I haven't heard many cases that they did not.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:33pm
Again I don't really know as it was pretty forgettable. So your guess of what it might be, doesn't impress me, that you know a touristy area near your home.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:34pm


First of all why would you assume that I have never lived or worked in NY you have never asked that.


Second, I never said what she is suppose to think.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:36pm

Well that's lovely, but didn't answer my question.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:37pm

< Well that's lovely, but didn't answer my question.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:39pm
So "you" still "think" your employer doesn't need to follow NY state laws. It is up to them what they want to do with regard to their employees and labor laws of any kind don't enter into it. Interesting & silly concept!

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